I have an extended lesson plan in my book, Helping Students Motivate Themselves, designed to help students develop a little more personal responsibility and not blame others as often times as many do — I suspect we’ve all heard the comments “He made me do it” or “It’s your fault.”
A new related study was just published today, and I thought I’d use it as an excuse to bring together a few previous posts I’ve written about the topic.
Of course, students aren’t the only ones who can fall into the “blame game.” I’ve included a few posts here that might relate to the school reform debate. This is not to say, however, that it’s never okay to place blame where it’s appropriate. It’s just that I think we all tend to lead more with blaming instead of having blame come out of introspection, reflection and analysis.
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Here are my choices for The Best Resources For Helping Students Learn The Concept Of Not Blaming Others:
Can Blaming Others Make People Sick? is the headline of the article on today’s new study. Here’s an excerpt I’ll certainly be adding to my lesson:
Unlike regret, which is about self-blame and a case of “woulda, coulda, shoulda,” acrimony points the finger elsewhere — laying the blame for failure on external causes. “When harboured for a long time,” says Wrosch, “bitterness may forecast patterns of biological dysregulation (a physiological impairment that can affect metabolism, immune response or organ function) and physical disease.”
Here’s a nice comic strip on blame — suitable for students or for thinking about school reform:
FOR THE REST OF US:
Teachers Have Got To Stop Blaming Parents is a post I’ve written.
I’ve written about Ruby Payne, who blames low-income families for all sorts of problems.
I’ve written several posts on how people are blaming teachers a lot:
Schools would be great if it weren’t for the kids is a great piece by Alfie Kohn, who responds to Robert Samuelson’s weird column in Newsweek blaming the problems of schools on….students.
McREL Blog has a good summary and commentary on a report on who’s to blame for dropouts. The post is called Addressing High School Dropout: Taking a Look Inward. In the report, a lot of people are blaming someone else for the problem — except for one group. I’d encourage you to read the entire post. Here’s a quote:
“Here’s what’s interesting, though—according to the “ Silent Epidemic” report, most students (70%) do actually blame themselves, saying they could graduate if they had tried harder. Further, the report informs us that “while most dropouts blame themselves for failing to graduate, there are things they say schools can do to help them finish.”
Thus, it appears that everyone else seems to be blaming someone else, except the kids who drop out. What should that tell us?
Our dropout crisis will persist until each of us takes a look at those fingers pointing back at us, and identify our own culpability in our nation’s dropout crisis.
Change will require us to be introspective and acknowledge our own shortcomings. Once we do that, then we might be able to collaborate to present viable solutions to address high school dropout.”
Repairing a Culture of Blame is by David B. Cohen.
Can Blaming Others Make People Sick? is a report on an interesting study that finds “… bitterness may result in global feelings of anger and hostility that, when strong enough, could affect a person’s physical health.”
Using A Lesson On Cognitive Dissonance To Help Students Learn To Take Responsibility
General Eisenhower’s 1944 note written in case
D-Day invasion ended in failure–“If any blame…attaches to the attempt it is mine alone”: pic.twitter.com/dMvjdm68oc
— Michael Beschloss (@BeschlossDC) October 14, 2017
The Most Important Four Words a Leader Can Say is by Daniel Coyle.
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